Woman enraged after finding out husband paid for engagement ring with joint account
By Madhurima Haque|
An engagement ring is undoubtedly a symbol of love that has endured the test of time to continue to be a part of marriages today, but we often don't think about the implications of one party gifting it in full to the other.
One woman was enraged after she found out her husband had paid for her engagement ring using their joint account, ?airing her frustrations on Reddit.
The 28-year-old woman shared that she and her husband, 30, got married in a courthouse wedding two months ?ago following a one-month-long engagement, for which he presented her with a two carat lab-grown diamond ring that cost close to $8000. It was paid for with a payment plan as he didn't have funds readily available.
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After they wed and merged their accounts, the woman found that he had been withdrawing from their joint account to finance the ring.?
"He feels that ring is a wedding expense and it's only fair that I contribute towards it too, and that as a woman of this day I shouldn't hesitate to be an equal partner," she said.
"You don't make the recipient of a gift pay for the damned gift," she said, adding that she believes the engagement ring is culturally considered a gift given to one party from the other.
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The woman said she always wanted a nice ring and was not willing to compromise on this, adding that her husband was aware of this expectation and could have discussed things with her to see if they were "?truly compatible".
"What I didn't know was that he was plotting to 'get even' with me by taking out a payment plan and using our funds to finance it," she said.
The woman also added that if she knew he was going to make her pay for the ring, she wouldn't have asked for it in the first place?.
"Mutual consent is essential when a couple is deciding to invest in an asset... So I can retroactively decide now I never wanted to own it," she said, adding that she has been demanding the husband returns it.
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This caused the husband to fight back and "berate [her] for being sexist towards him", with the woman saying his "sheer stubbornness and tackiness about wanting me to pay is what pisses me off".
Some responders were left confused at the woman's insistence.
"?I'm not really sure I understand your reasoning," said one commenter, "If paying for something out of your joint account means you're paying for it indirectly, and that makes it not a gift, then neither of you can ever give each other gifts again. Your finances are MERGED. What's his is yours and yours is his."
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"You two are in for a world of hurt. It sounds to me like you're going to keep a running list of who does more, who does less, who owes who," commented another.
"An engagement ring is NOT a gift. It is a contract," one commenter said, "If you hadn't gotten married the ring would have gone back to him. As for the payment of the ring, because you two are married now technically you both owe the balance."
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