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Groom flamed for inviting fianc¨Ĥe's high school bullies to their wedding

By Bronte Gossling|

Marriage is meant to be symbolic of the highest union between couples ĦŞ but one bride and groom's wedding has left them more divided than ever.

A man has been slammed online for wanting to invite his fianc¨Ĥe's high-school bullies to their wedding next month, much to her distress.

He justified his decision by saying they were his friends back in the day, and now the couple are fighting.

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A couple are fighting ahead of the wedding because the groom invited his fianc¨Ĥe's high-school bullies against her wishes. (Getty)

Taking to the Reddit community r/AmITheA--hole, the 33-year-old man explained that he had known his 32-year-old fianc¨Ĥe in high-school, and he wanted to invite an old group of friends to their wedding next month as they were "close to [him] back then."

"When my fianc¨Ĥe found out and read the name on every invitation, she went into panic mode," the man wrote.

"She said she doesn't want any member of this group in our wedding whatsoever, I asked her to explain and she claimed they'd heavily bullied and harassed her in high school while she was dealing with major health problems."

His fianc¨Ĥe told him that his old friends "made her life hell" and permanently damaged her mental health, but he didn't relent.

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The groom is 'exhausted' with all the fighting and doesn't see the big deal about the invites. (Getty)

"I asked if she was serious because this was many years ago and everyone has matured by now," he continued.

"She said no and that it doesn't make sense that I want to invite them when I don't even hang out with them since God knows when. I said true but most of them are from my neighbourhood (parents' house) and they were part of my childhood-teenage years and I wanted them to be invited. [Plus] I'm in constant contact with some of them.

"She said she'll veto my decision but I argued that it was ridiculous that she is so hung up on some petty high school drama."

At this point, the man says his fianc¨Ĥe started crying and said he has no consideration for her feelings and that she felt he was prioritising his old friend group over his future wife.

"I refused to argue anymore because I felt that she keeps disrespecting my choices yet, I got called the selfish one in this whole situation," he said.

According to the man, she is still arguing with him about the issue and he's "exhausted" with it, and he says he didn't dictate who she could invite or not.

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Redditors were unimpressed with how the man handled the situation.

"[You're The A--hole]," one user wrote. "Let me get this straight, you want to invite them because 'back in the day' you [hung] out with them, but her being bullied does not count because it's 'years ago'?"

Another user added: "Also, why [did] you even invite them, it seems like your soon to be wife didn't even know that you still have a relationship or anything with them as she was surprised to see the names on the invitations

"Do they really have anything to do with your life anymore or had a major impact on it or are you just inviting people to invite people? A wedding is supposed to be two people, their love and their close relationships like family and (close) friends. You want to invite people who love you and are happy for you."

One user simply wrote: "The real sadness is the she is marrying a bully."

Many took issue with how the groom minimised his bride's experience with being a victim of bullying, with one user writing, "Bullying leaves deep scars. It's the reason I'm an introvert now with no self-confidence, depression, and severe anxiety. Anxiety comes along with my ASD, but if I hadn't been pushed to the point of begging the earth to swallow me up 15 years ago, I'd be in a much better state now. Instead I'm 28 and living with this feeling that I'll never be good enough and no one wants me. I'd be surprised if I ever felt totally secure in a romantic relationship.

"What your fianc¨Ĥe went through might be 'years ago' to you, but I guarantee you that she still struggles with the longterm damage, even now."

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